Desire and fear are like two sides of a coin, yet how similar they are.
Human behavior flows from three main sources: desire, emotion, and knowledge. –Plato
Desire is instinctual, isn’t it? It means wanting something we don’t have, such as great wealth instead of the fear of a heap of bills. Or wanting a loving relationship instead of loneliness. Reaching our goals/desires takes careful planning, but also challenges along the way. I might desire to be a great public speaker, but fear being ridiculed. Or the desire to learn foreign languages, but afraid I’ll be made fun of if I try to speak the language. The fear of failure for some can be too big an obstacle to overcome and they have lost the opportunity for greatness. I may desire to write a great American novel, but I know my limitations. That doesn’t mean I won’t continue to write and learn and grow.
Fear of rejection is a powerful emotion.
What if he leaves me?
What if she rejects me?
What if no one wants to talk to me at the conference?
Stars, hide your fires, let not light see my black and deep desires. – William Shakespeare
Fear often leads to anger. We put up walls to protect ourselves from hurt and then we start feeling angry. Anger is a buffer we use when we’re frightened. We use it as a cover up to keep our feelings at bay. In a way, it’s an escape from an upsetting situation, a way to cope.
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.– Robert Frost